If any of you were like me, then you thought the dating would end once you got married. Now I don't mean the weekly dates that you and your spouse go on to keep the spark alive, because of course it's important to continue that. I mean the awkward, "Are we compatible? Did he have fun? Will he want to see me again?" feeling while dating. Because although that type of dating stops with your spouse, it starts with other couples.
You see, now that you are married, you have to blend lives and this means that you will have to hang out with your spouses friends and their spouses, whether or not you are really compatible. You find yourself wishing that *Kate was married to *Harry instead of *William because you have the most fun with Kate of all the other wives, but your husband is really best friends with Harry. This means you end up spending much more time with Harry's wife *Penelope, who isn't the best conversationalist. You and Penelope also have nothing in common, so while your husbands are off plotting their next move in fantasy football, you are sitting in an awkward silence, each desperately trying to think of something interesting to say.
However, once in long while, a couple comes along and everybody immediately just clicks. I don't just mean everyone gets along, because we can just get along with anybody, I mean really click. As in: you never run out of conversation topics, you can all be yourselves, there is no judgement or competition, and you wouldn't feel awkward spending an afternoon "just the girls" with his wife. But I'll be honest with you, we have only come across such a couple twice in our whole marriage.
And now that we are moving, we are pretty much starting over with couple dating, and it makes me nervous because I like having friends and I worry that we won't find any "click" couples in Texas. And I know that you can become good friends with people over time, we've got lots of those of friends. Its just so nice to have an instant best friend.
I guess what I'm really getting at is that we probably have some awkward "Do you think they had fun? The movie we picked wasn't too boring, was it? Did I make a fool of myself while we were playing cranium?" moments in our near future...
*Names have been changed as to not offend the innocent. Either that or we are friends with the royals ;-)
You see, now that you are married, you have to blend lives and this means that you will have to hang out with your spouses friends and their spouses, whether or not you are really compatible. You find yourself wishing that *Kate was married to *Harry instead of *William because you have the most fun with Kate of all the other wives, but your husband is really best friends with Harry. This means you end up spending much more time with Harry's wife *Penelope, who isn't the best conversationalist. You and Penelope also have nothing in common, so while your husbands are off plotting their next move in fantasy football, you are sitting in an awkward silence, each desperately trying to think of something interesting to say.
However, once in long while, a couple comes along and everybody immediately just clicks. I don't just mean everyone gets along, because we can just get along with anybody, I mean really click. As in: you never run out of conversation topics, you can all be yourselves, there is no judgement or competition, and you wouldn't feel awkward spending an afternoon "just the girls" with his wife. But I'll be honest with you, we have only come across such a couple twice in our whole marriage.
And now that we are moving, we are pretty much starting over with couple dating, and it makes me nervous because I like having friends and I worry that we won't find any "click" couples in Texas. And I know that you can become good friends with people over time, we've got lots of those of friends. Its just so nice to have an instant best friend.
I guess what I'm really getting at is that we probably have some awkward "Do you think they had fun? The movie we picked wasn't too boring, was it? Did I make a fool of myself while we were playing cranium?" moments in our near future...
*Names have been changed as to not offend the innocent. Either that or we are friends with the royals ;-)
2 comments:
This made me laugh so hard cuz I totally feel you. When we lived in Vegas we had THREE awesome couples we hung out with. Yes ma'am, three. Don't be jealous, but it was awesome. And now we moved again and are back to zero, haha. The search continues.
I feel the saaaaame way. Ever since we moved up here it's like starting all over. I know people since I'm from the area, but it sucks finding a COUPLE that you and your husband get along with (and hope they like you too) ;) Good luck!
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